Full Disclosure

My dates are usually divided into the following categories:

Sex date
Pre-sex date
Regular date

Sex Date: pretty self-explainitory. There is no wooing required. We're both here to fuck and that's about it.

Pre-sex date: we're meeting to see if we want to fuck or not. It's what we want, we're just dotting "i"s and crossing "t"s. Usually ends with your place or mine.

Regular date: completely traditional, "dinner and movie, getting to know you, kiss on the cheek at the end" date.

My first few dates with S. have been of the regular variety. It's been a nice change of pace, but he doesn't yet know the degree of my slutishness. I did give him the run-down on our first date: not interested in a monogamous relationship, it would have to be open, I'm kind of kinky (yeah, "kind of"), but we were both pretty drunk at the time so I don't know how much of it sunk in.

I normally do not wait until the 4th date to fuck. If I like him and I want him and he likes me and wants me, I see no need in waiting. Better to test the waters early I say. But with the holidays and schedule conflicts, we have yet to go beyond the brief kisses in front of my apartment.

We're getting together Friday (dinner and Sweeney Todd) and we both made it pretty clear to each other that there will be fucking happening.

I'm finding myself doing some of the same kinky accessory removal I did when my parents were coming to visit. Do I let it all hang out at once, should I be blatantly honest about my life and my needs right at the start or do I ease into it, letting it come out on it's own?

I've never lied or given any false impression of who I am, but I have withheld information. I've never mentioned orgies or kinky conventions or bdsm. I think, I'm afraid of scaring him off and I'm afraid of him staying. My hope is that he'll be game and my fear is that he won't. I want him to be open and couragous and willing, because I don't want to give up what I've gained. I don't want to compromise. I've spent most of my life compromising.

I'm probably thinking about this too much.